Today

Monday, May 14, 2012

Today is hard.

We had a good weekend.

Not bad.

Not great.

A solid good weekend.

Friends, parenting Isaac right now is difficult. Extremely difficult.

I had a friend comment on Instagram they hoped their sons antics would peak at 2 1/2. So did we. But they didn't. With his ability to communicate and absorb, the challenges are different every day. Over the weekend there was a full on meltdown because he wanted an ice cube in bed.

An ice cube.

For real, as if he's ever gotten to bring an ice cube to bed before.

You can anticipate almost every need, conversation or challenge, but you can't anticipate them all.

An ice cube. For the love.

The head knowledge that he's defining boundaries and needs to know that there is a strong authority to answer to is great . . . until you find yourself in a shouting match with your 3 year old son.

Yesterday before laying down for bed Isaac told me, "You're so nice to us mama. Thank you . . . sometimes you're mean though too."

Clearly, I don't want that to be my legacy.

My intent is not to be his friend.

I am his mother.

But this is dang hard.

And then you have my Mom text messaging me and calling me in tears, because Isaac won't listen to her.

And I'm stuck at work. 

It's.just.hard.

22 comments:

mrsmeyer said...

Giggling- I think you should have given it to him after patiently explaining to him what he would be getting into. Let it melt, let him get cold and wet, and then explain why he should listen to his mama. :) You are doing great! Hang in there!

Elena said...

I know how difficult it is. I have a hard time discipling sometimes but I remind myself I am the mother and not the friend too! If I don't teach them, who will? It is so dang hard!

Xriston, Stacey & Sawyer said...

Oh, I am right there with you. Our boy turned 3 in February and man, has it been a long few months! (Nearly) everything is a battle, discussion, or at a minimum, a pause for him to be certain that this is in fact (mostly) his decision and what he wants to do at that second. I sure hope this phase of challenging everything eases up on you too!

Meredith said...

I totally understand. I have no advice, 'cause I'm there in the trenches with you. To be honest, I was just reflecting today about the lack of Lizzy-photos on my blog lately. You know why? Because right now, I love her, but I don't always like her very much. I don't even know if I'm allowed to say that, but right now, it's the truth!

Ericanandy said...

Hang in there. I saw your IG feed. Recently a friend shared this article with me.
http://thepenningtonpoint.com/2012/02/20-ways-to-reset-when-the-kids-are-having-a-hard-day/
As well as this one:
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/Parenting-Strong-Willed-Child
Again thoughts and prayers with you. (perkiemom on ig)

Tess Weber-Popejoy said...

This is our house right now. Asher is trying my patience at every turn. We had a MAJOR fit Saturday night because he wanted a band-aid - but he didn't have an ouchie. I was totally lost, there came a point where I just shut the door to his room and sat out in the hallway and cried. I'm having such a hard time with him lately knowing that we'll be home together for the summer and he doesn't listen to me...at all.

Bekah said...

Jack is close to three, so while I dont know for sure that our experiences are the same, I can commiserate. It is HARD. Jack also had meltdowns/tantrums over the strangest, most random things you can imagine. It is so frustrating, and while I try to help him understand/handle his emotions, there are times that, for both of our sake, I shut the bedroom door tp his room and tell him that Mommy loves him very much, when he can talk nicely he is more than welcome to come back out and play with me. Doesnt always work, but sometimes it does.

W said...

((hugs)) hang in there

Jill said...

Thinking about you Leah. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Makes me really sad for you, for your family and for your little boy. I hope he "grows" out of this soon.

Hugs.

Katie said...

Hang in there, girl. I definitely know what you are going through. I've found that with everything, being consistent is the key and it sounds like you are doing just that. While it is no doubt tough at times, it will pass and will be easier later because you've been so on top of things. Thinking of you!!

Andrea said...

Fortunately or unfortunately, I'm right there with you.

Laura said...

I'm sorry. Wish I had more to say than that!

Megan said...

No words... just virtual hugs!

Laura, Hoosier Life Hoosier Wife said...

Leah, I am so there! Tyson is difficult, challenging, stubborn and all of those things. I have no real words of wisdom, only support to let you know you're not alone. We will make it through these Tough/Terrible/Trying Threes!

Jenna @ Hackberry Adventures said...

First time commenting, but this post is so where we are at right now with our almost 3 year old. EVERYTHING has to be his way/decision/to his liking. If it's not, we hear about it. But he so flip flops, as one minute he's sweet as can be, but the next, quite different, if, say, we didn't let him help feed our dogs. I keep telling myself that this too shall pass, but many moms have told me that 3 is worse than 2!

LC said...

I'm also sending virtual hugs. Ethan's only 1 but I'm already deciding what parenting books I need to read. I feel like the first year is able taking care of them, keeping them alive, and cuddles. Now the real parenting starts...and it's freaking me out. Love and Logic is a great first step. And wine. :)

Ericanandy said...

Leah, here's a link to a L&L webinar.
http://www.loveandlogic.com/ecom/p-485-love-and-logic-solutions-for-early-childhood-love-and-logic-on-demand-webinar.aspx

I am familiar with the elementary level L&L webinars that I had taken while teaching. They were very beneficial.

Julia said...

Hugs, mama. Days like these are super tough but there are sure to be amazing ones around the corner.

ashavenue said...

You got this! He'll turn a corner pretty soon so you can catch your breath and level out.., before the next round starts... It is SO dang hard!!!!!

kari said...

Hugs to you Leah. I'm not there yet, but I'm praying for you and Isaac.

Erin said...

We're getting to this stage with Annie too. It is HARD. A lot of the times, when she's having a COMPLETELY ridiculous tantrum (especially if it's the 10th one she's had in an hour), I just want to go take Luke and hide with my baby who will surely NEVER have irrational tantrums of his own ;) Ha! Of course, it's most often that she chooses to have a meltdown at the exact moment Luke is too. Those moments are F-U-N!!! I know it's only going to get worse before it gets better too, since she's not even 2.5. Yay.

Julie S. said...

I am praying for you guys- for wisdom and strength to parent Isaac in this trying time. Brayden has started really testing me lately and it is so hard to not just give in because it is easier. *sigh* You are doing the right thing.

 

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