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Friday, May 18, 2012

I can't tell you how much I appreciate all of your heartfelt responses to yesterday's post. Needless to say, I was pretty discouraged. We're looking into summer preschool options and are hoping our application is accepted! Please understand that while I try to be as honest and transparent as possible, not all pertinent information is disclosed and believe that we are making the best decisions we can for our family.

Last night Isaac had bad diarrhea and now this morning Ezra has had three baths due to blowouts, throwing up and pooping in the tub once.

Even if they're sick, I'm thankful I get this time with my boys.

16 comments:

Julia said...

Sick days are never 'fun' but sometimes it's still nice to be needed. Hang in there, mama. I can't imagine the strain that this is putting on your relationship with your mom. Although I always envy those with 'free' childcare from their parents, I know it's not always free and something has to give. I wonder if it would be totally out of the question to get Isaac into a different home a few days per week. I really do think there are other providers out there who could handle him without 'abusing' him----there are some tough but loving cookies out there! But I know that would cost more and affect the budget.

Hang in there and ride this wave!

Jill said...

Ugh.

Pooping in the tub hasn't happened at our house yet, but I cannot imagine how you must feel with that happens!

I'm sorry that this week isn't going that great for you... but you're going to get through it.

Thanks for always being so transparent.

Jen | Our Life Accounts said...

So I was in the middle of leaving this comment on your blog post below when comments were disabled :) I'll just leave it here, I hope it provides some encouragement!

From the stories you've shared, Isaac sounds a lot like two of my brothers. People told my parents for years and years that they needed to "get a handle" on them and that they needed to discipline them more (beat their wills into submission or assert their authority more). Hah! They got disciplined plenty. "Advice" like that even came from grandparents. Honestly, had my parents taken them in to be diagnosed, it is extremely likely that they would have been labeled with some sort of behavioral disorder and put on medication but ultimately, they both grew out of it. One of them not until he was a teenager. That's not to say that its not possible that Isaac's behavior could be linked to food allergies or food intolerance, just to offer up the possibility that sometimes it is just an age or a phase. Both my brothers were/are both very bright, very verbal, outgoing and strong-willed children/adults. My mom had the strong-willed child book on her nightstand for many years!

I don't know if its a fair comparison of your mom to compare Isaac's behavior to other kids that she's cared for(no offense to your mom) because Isaac is bound to be more comfortable with her and be around her a lot more than kids that are there for daycare. She's also going to see him in a different light than other kids because he's her grand-kid.

Your whole family is in my prayers! I hope that a workable solution can be found.

Justine said...

Oh gosh, Leah! I wonder if maybe he was acting up more than normal because he wasn't feeling well?

Just a thought-- I've worked at daycares for years, and the thing that I think worked best for strong-willed children was a program called "1,2,3 Magic". It can be really tedious to put into effect (affect? I never know which to use.. :) ), but I've seen it work WONDERS with difficult children. Although, everyone has to be super, super committed to it, and you HAVE to follow through EVERY time or it doesn't work. Which might be really hard for your mom to do while she's taking care of other children.

I'll be praying for you guys.

Justine said...

PS I hope the boys get better quickly and that you all can have a wonderful and well behaved weekend. ;)

Jen said...

Hope the boys feel better! I really appreciate your honesty about parenting. Prayers that the best solution for Issac becomes clear.

Bekah said...

Oh Leah, Im so sorry. I just caught up on the last three posts today, and what an emotional rollercoaster for you all.

I have no words or advice that will fix anything, but I am praying for all of you.

Janell said...

I left a comment in your post last night and then realized it may come off as snarky and that wasn't my intention.

Like a previous commenter mentioned please take heart in moving Isaac to another provider and listening to your mom. Both of our parents have offered to do daycare for our son and we've adamantly declined their services, because we feel that it would ruin his relationship with grandma if she was his caregiver. Grandma's are supposed to be fun, and games, not discipline and rules. And no offense to your mother but yes Isaac will be different than the other kids she's cared for because she's already got a different view of him as her grandson and not just another "kid" she's cared for.

I honestly feel that there isn't anything you have ever said in your blog that would lead anyone to believe that Isaac isn't just a normal 3 year old exercising his boundaries... maybe it would help if he had someone who wasn't so close watching him.

Raquel said...

Sorry the kids are sick ;( I actually wanted to comment on the previous post about Isaac. I too have a strong willed boy...no behavior "problems" just full of energy and curiousity !!! Have you considered day care as in a center. You would be surprised how the "teachers" can channel their energy ( the boys). I know it doesn't help your savings plan but it would let your Mom be Isaac's grandmother and not caregiver. Isaac sounds like a very smart, energetic boy that may benefit from a very structed day.

W said...

Praying for you guys. We faced a similar decision last year but it worked out. It always does. If you have to find other childcare, maybe you can work out a part-time schedule at your job? I work mornings, M-F and it works out fine. I'm there every day in case I am needed but have plenty of time to spend with my daughter the rest of the day.

Adrienne said...

I hope they feel better and I hope you have a wonderful, relaxing weekend with all of your boys :)

Ericanandy said...

Hopefully it works out and he can attend a camp! It will be a great experience for all. Hopefully the boys feel better today.

theresap said...

I really enjoy reading your blog, especially for your honesty and openness about being a mother. God will provide an answer for you and your family! I am certain! My mom and family also care for my two boys(named Isaac and Ethan ironically!)and recently we've also had to think about making some switches. I was very upset and prayed and prayed over it and God pulled through with an AWESOME plan that was totally unexpected. I know He will do the same for you. Have faith and give it time. I'll keep you in my prayers. Hope your boys feel better soon :)

Emily said...

Just went to comment on your previous post but saw the comments were disabled. All I wanted to say was that I'm thinking of you and Isaac and your whole family! Hang in there - you strike me as a very capable, smart and in-tune mama, and you will figure out what is right for your sweet Isaac and you.

Faith said...

Thanks for liking my photo on Instagram! It's always awesome to meet new bloggers! I feel for you and these last couple of stressful days. I just want to encourage you that you and your husband WILL make a good decision, even if that means changing your mind about child care, work etc. mistakes are part of life, struggles are part of what make us the amazing people we are becoming. Trust that God WILL guide you and give you the wisdom you need and everything will work out.

Hope you have a relaxed, refreshing weekend!

Leslie G said...

Hey Leah. big hugs to you! I'm so sorry you are feeling defeated.
In church today, there were several amazing testimonies that were told in reference to Gods plans for our lives. They were so neat to hear, because we don't always know what's going on in the day to day basis of our life. I know that you trust Him and I'm confident that if this preschool is right for Issaac, the door will open for you guys. If it doesn't, God has plans for Issaac somewhere else! When it's all said and done you will see. :) keep your head up, friend!

 

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