Preschool [and the random thoughts associated]

Thursday, February 9, 2012

There have been a few challenges lately with Isaac. Every parent thinks their child is a genius, yaya, yada, yada, but turns out, Isaac is pretty bright. I'm not saying he's exceptionally gifted or anything along those lines, but the kid has been doing 60 piece puzzles by himself for the past six months and bores easily, so I feel like I can safely say he's got something going on.

It's turned into quite a double edges sword though.

He's intelligent + strong willed = my Mom at her wits end.

And I don't necessarily blame her. Isaac tests boundaries incessantly and my Mom has reached a point in her daycare years where she doesn't want to necessarily deal with the exasperating phenom known as the determined toddler boy. I'm not saying that there are not defiant toddler girls, just that in my experience as a mom of boys and the ratio my Mom curates in her daycare, toddler boys seem to be an obstacle best avoided.

It's brought about some hard conversations between my Mom and I. At a base level we parent differently. Then you add in the whole daycare provider dynamic and the grandparent dynamic and it gets ugly fast in certain situations.

One thing we definitely agree on though, is that 3 year old preschool has Isaac's name written all over it.

He's social.

He loves to learn.

He likes structure.

Perfect fit.

And so the search begins. It pains me that I don't get to be a part of this process more than the selection. I guess it was an unknown plan of mine to be a part of my children's education [think minivan in pajamas], but this will start without me.  Tony will be the one to drop Isaac off at preschool and to bring him back to my Mom's. That hurts me in a way I didn't anticipate.

Those darned feminists.

Turns out I don't want to have it all.

I just want to enjoy the time I have with my family now, because it's entirely too fleeting.


Kelly Bartlett said...

"those darm feminists" a term I say often...

I think he will really enjoy preschool. You will love hearing all about his day, his new friends, his teachers, and wowing over the art work he brings home.

Teresa said...

He will love preschool. If I remember correctly you are near Stillwater. The Stillwater school district has a wonderful program that sits within the elementary school setting. My son went part-time to the preschool which was located in the Bayport elelmentary school and it kept him engaged, excited and toned down some of his boy characteristics that drive grandmas crazy.

Emily said...

Ugh, Those darn feminists - I'm right there with you. Isn't it such a struggle? The family and business goals just hardly ever meet in the middle.

This post resonated with me so much - I honestly googled "2 year old preschool" the other day - it's called daycare and that blew up in my face, so not an option. Anyway - good luck to you. thanks for the post!

AJ said...

Isaac is one smart little guy for sure :) I know he'll do just fine in preschool, and you'll love that he goes, and even though you can't drop him off in a minivan while wearing your pajamas, it will be all good. Perhaps you can save the minivan dream for soccer practice or kindergarten ;)

Rose said...

Michael just misses the cut-off for 3 year old preschool and I breathed a huge sigh of relief when I found out. He is never going to school...he will stay home with me forever!! :o)

Isaac will love it. Hang in there!

Jen said...

Preschool has been the best thing ever for Carter. I am amazed at some of the fun, exciting things his teachers do with him in class. What kind of program did you decide on?

Linnea said...

I'm so with you on this! So often I catch myself thinking "all I want is to be home and to raise a family." I enjoy my work, of course, but long to be there for my someday babies. You're doing what God has called you to right now - keep honoring what He's called you to be and do! You're a good mommy to those two boys, and they're so blessed to have a daddy who's also present and invested in their lives.

Dunc said...

Those darned feminists?

I assumed this was tongue-in-cheek, but it sounds like some commenters genuinely echo those sentiments. To me, the feminist movement paved the way for every woman to pursue their desired careers, whether outside the home or not...assuming the means are available.

I totally sympathize with being in a situation/circumstance that is not the one you want to be in, though. I hope you get to the point where you are in the family/work situation and balance you desire sooner rather than later!

Leah said...

Absolutely tongue-in-cheek Sarah. Writing it has made me very reflective on what was accomplished by the feminist movement.

Being on what I feel to be the end of the movement and enjoying the results of those that laid the foundation for the options available to me, I feel like I expected to do everything.

No, it's not the fault of equal opportunity that I took on college loans, bought a house and have established a cost of living that requires a two income household, but it's a lot easier to say that than just focus on the fact that I made the choices that put me in this situation.

Meredith said...

I probably shouldn't jump into this, but Dunc, I think for me the point with the "darn feminists" is that the feminist movement has opened up so many opportunities for us women, which is amazing. BUT, there also seems to be this perception now that as women, we can and should have it all--we can be mothers, stay competitive in our careers, have a nurturing relationship with our husbands, keep our houses impeccably clean, cook dinner from scratch every night, make baby food from scratch, be in a book club/ Bible Study, and work out every day. That MAY be possible for a small percentage of people, but for the vast majority, I think that it's just not attainable to be able to do all those things and to do them well...but that idea that it is possible (and even desirable) seems to be something that I tend to hear and read from some feminist speakers and writers. Not all, but some. I don't know...I don't think I'm alone in feeling this conflict...

Anyway, Leah I think Isaac and Lizzy are so much alike. They are such strong personalities! And, I'm kinda glad I get to watch you walk through it first, friend ;)

Raquel said...

I think your Isaac will love preschool. And get your tote bins ready for all of the art work. Since my son's daycare is faith based I also save every bible study from Wee-Worship. I always have good intentions of going through it and weeding out...but honestly they are all good pieces of "art".

Julie S. said...

The strong-willed toddler boy is one I know all too well. I can only imagine the struggle when you add in the daycare/grandparent dynamic. I know that the core is just wanting what is best! :) He will do great at 3 year old preschool, and you will be happy you sent him!

ibrewtea said...

If you want a different way of looking at it, imagine living completely off of your husband's salary right now. Or, a job with minimal maternity leave and few other benefits for women. That's where no feminism would've put you. Staying home is a luxury. If you're ever in doubt, go to a third world country and see how many poor women don't work all day, every day. I live in one, and a world without women's rights and opportunities is a shoddy place to be.

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