Monday, May 9, 2011

These are the weeks when it really starts to become real.

32w1d with Baby Love vs 32w in Florida with Isaac.

And clothed.
Old cardi from Marshall's, new non-mat top from Marshalls [$15] and my usual ON mat jeans.
*Side note: Isaac lost my H&M belt. We can't find it anywhere. I blame Tony for letting him play with it.

From my weekly email: By now, your baby weighs 3.75 pounds (pick up a large jicama) and is about 16.7 inches long, taking up a lot of space in your uterus. You're gaining about a pound a week and roughly half of that goes right to your baby. In fact, he'll gain a third to half of his birth weight during the next 7 weeks as he fattens up for survival outside the womb.

How far along?: 32w1d
How big is baby?: 16.7 inches with legs extended and 3.75lbs.
Weight gain/loss?: Holding steady at 22lbs.
Stretch marks?: None, thankfully.
Maternity clothes?: Bottoms, absolutely. So far I'm still leveraging a lot of my non-mat tops though.
Sleep?: Thankfully not as bad as last week!
Food cravings?: I want a turkey burger so badly.
Gender?: We're having another son!
Movement?: Markedly less, but not to the point that I've done kick counts yet.
Belly button?: No turkey baster yet, but it's a lost cause.
What are you looking forward to this week?: My 32w appointment with my midwife on Wednesday.

Notables: Just managed to look up our hospital's tour of the Women's Center in enough time to put it on the schedule for June! It's the only one left before Baby Love will make his arrival.

My self esteem definitely took a beating in the last week. First there was the comment last week from a coworker inquiring about my maternity leave whose reaction made it distinctly clear that she expected me to say in a few weeks, not two months.

Then there was the 2nd time mom who gladfully informed me that I have "grown so much" in the past few weeks. While not necessarily as hard to hear as huge or the like, it still wasn't pleasant on the ears!

Then at my wedding on Friday, I had a woman approach me to say "Oh my dear, when are you due? Any second?" Somehow I managed to respond without embarrassing myself and also felt the need to justify my bump by calling out that it's my 2nd child.

The last straw came from family, which obviously hurts the worst! My mother in law hasn't seen me in a week or so and on Saturday said "Oh Leah, do you think you're going to make it another month or two?" Quick to follow up my sister in law chimed in "Don't you just think it's the belt that she's wearing that makes her look bigger?"

And ouch.

Crap, to make it worse, I'm undecided if comparing my 32w picture vs 37w with Isaac just made me feel worse or not. Ah vanity, I thought I lost you when I first had Isaac, when did you return?

I never got these comments when I was pregnant with Isaac, so it's uncharted territory. People seem to forget that pregnant or not, I'm still a woman, with feelings. It's not appropriate to comment on people's body shape or weight when not pregnant. I'll never understand why the switch flips when one is.


Sky said...

Oh, Stop. You look fantastic, you really do. Deep breaths and giving yourself the "How you doin'" look in the mirror should inspire some confidence.

P.S. I haven't forgotten about making a little something for your little love. Things are nuts right now, but I'll get there. Promise.

Bethany said...

Just my opinion - but I think you look beautiful!! Just remember God has blessed you with a son you will be meeting shortly - maybe that will help with the loss of confindence.

LuCinda said...

It must be a second time mom thing, because I was truly HUGE with my DD and never got a single comment even to the end, when blimp would have been an appropriate description. This time around everyone is already commenting on how big I am and how I'm ready to pop.

I think you look adorable and right on track!

Erin said...

I think you look great, and really not any bigger than you did with Isaac from my standpoint! The ONLY thing I ever say to a pregnant woman now is "You look amazing!" I never got any comments when I was pregnant, but it may have been the death glares I was shooting off to strangers and friends alike that protected me ;)

Unknown said...

You most certainly aren't close to that 37 week photo yet. No worries. And I'm not blowing smoke up your patoot when I say you really do look great.

The comments are horrible. I got them really bad with Eli and it drove me nuts "Whoa! you sure you aren't having twins?", "You must be due any day now" and even now people I barely know tell me they wondered how I managed my first pregnancy. Gee, thanks. I think this time I'll be a tad more "honest" with them :)

Diane said...

You look fabulous and that's the honest truth! I've been getting those comments a lot lately and I've just started embrasing them and joining in on the laughs. People just don't know what to say and instead of not saying anything they say the first lame thing that pops into their head.

About a month ago a lady at church asked if I was having triplets... I still can't forget that one.

Unknown said...

First of all I think they are all crazy, you look beautiful! You are one tiny pregnant lady! I only wish I could look like you do when you are pregnant! Keep Smiling!

Chris | Team Sea-Squared said...

Oh my gosh, you look so good Leah! Don't let their comments get to you. I hope and pray I look as good as you when I get pregnant!

Mrs. Dirnberger said...

Seriously, people are nuts!!!! I mean come on...take it lightly. Those people are morons :) haha. NO but I got the same thing when I was pregnant!!!

Emily said...

Well, I think you look fabulous and glowing and happy.

I do remember my FIL thought it was hysterical to compare my bump to his gut every single time I saw him. I was not a fan.

Bree said...

I think you look adorable :) Your outfits are always so cute!

I might email you later with a few questions about your Dr, midwife, etc. :) (No, I'm not pregnant... yet)

~e said...

Don't know that you'll believe me considering I'm a complete stranger, but you look amazing. I got those comments starting at 26 weeks with my first pregnancy. It was awful. Everyone grows a baby differently and you're doing it the way your body needs to and you look awesome!

Danielle said...

I will never cease to be amazed by the things that people say. You look stunning!

Meredith said...

I'm sorry you've had to endure all those comments! I don't understand it either--I *still* have a hard time being nice to a few of the people who said things like that to me while I was pregnant!

Anyway, I think you look great--I can't believe how quickly this pregnancy is flying by (for me at least...probably not for you I'm sure!).

Jeannie said...

Leah, you look amazing, beautiful and just glowing. Who cares what others say. You are growing one amazing little human in your body; Next time someone says something, just come back with "He's a really healthy baby." and leave it at that!

Mrs. Lukie said...

I'm echoing many of the sentiments already posted here, but you really do look fabulous, Leah. And no, you're not even close to the 37w picture of you with Isaac, so don't fret.

I have to say I'm surprised (and jealous!) to hear you never got the "size" comments when you were pregnant with Isaac. I seem to have gotten them from the moment we announced the pregnancy, and the hits just keep coming :(

People DO need to realize that, pregnant or not, we are still women, with feelings (ahem, typically much *stronger* feelings than normal!) and we need to be treated a bit more delicately during this time.

Keep rocking that beautiful baby bump and looking like hot pregnant gal you are <3

Anonymous said...

You look absolutely beautiful Leah. And for the record, I think you are markedly smaller now than you were at 37 weeks with Isaac. Also, I distinctly remember a big growth spurt around this time and a smaller one around 35 weeks, and then my growth pretty much stagnated. So you'll be fine!!

ThoughtsON said...

You look fabulous!
It amazes me how people are when you are pregnant. All verbal filters are gone and comments like 'WOW you are about to pop' and 'Ohmigosh you're huge!' are suddenly coming at you from every angle. Not to mention the personal questions. It's an odd and frustrating time.

Anonymous said...

Holy moly, you are going to meet your baby SO SOON.

Julie S. said...

Apparently pregnant bellies make people's filters disappear. As if being pregnant wasn't hard enough, people feel the need to point it out to us, like we forgot or something! It's something I will never understand, along with people randomly touching my stomach. Ack. Hang in there, you look great- and there's nothing that can take away the joy that you are feeling, even if you are feeling bigger. :)

Katie said...

You are not close to that 37 week picture! You look great! I don't think anyone meant any harm in their comments. It's hard to find the right things to say sometimes. Keep your chin up. You look tiny with the most adorable baby bump!

Miss said...

well, being that I have done this FIVE Times, I consider myself an expert...and I think you look fantatstic!! Besides, it doesn't matter what your STOMACH looks like (thats all baby)...look at the rest of your sexy self and feel PROUD!! =) seriously!

and if makes you feel any better, when I was pg with number 2 I was asked if I was carrying twins...=)


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