Stuck | Unstuck

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Tony and I have this incredible feeling of being stuck right now. It's really affected our ability to see past our circumstances and embrace our blessings.

.*. We're stuck in a teeny tiny house that we never should have bought.
[We have a roof over our head that increases our chances of being close to each other.]

.*. We're stuck in work positions that either leave dissatisfaction or who's future is unknown.
[We are paying the bills, and more than that, paying down debt.]

.*. We're stuck in a process that may take months to recover from in losing Josiah, worst case.
[We have been blessed by two beautiful pregnancies and have Isaac to show for one.]

.*. We're stuck driving my Dad's old truck, which is a daily question mark.
[We have the opportunity to use a borrowed vehicle.]

.*. I'm stuck in a place regarding my photography business that makes me want to cry.
[I have not even operated my business for a full year. Patience.]

.*. I'm stuck in a place regarding my body that makes me unhappy.
[I wake up safe with all limbs operating.]

We're not exactly stuck at all.
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MrsH120807 said...


I have been following your blog since you were pregnant with Isaac. I really appreciated this post today as we are going through a difficult time as well. Your ability to come up with a positive to counteract the negative was very uplifting. I hope that things will look up and that you can take joy in that beautiful little boy of yours.

Erin said...

I totally know how you feel, and I need to do some reflecting on my own blessings as well!

Seriously, Isaac's curls.... wow. I'd just spend all day rubbing that little head!!

Jill said...

Leah, you're something else. Even when life stinks you've still got your head up and you're living it!

What's going on with your body? Still healing physically?

Molly said...

I hear ya on the first one. We never should have bought this crackerbox that we're in. But after seeing people living in TENTS because they have lost their jobs. Well, it makes me grateful that we have a roof over our heads.

Patience is tough for me too, Leah. You'll get there.

Lindsay said...

What a great reminder! Thanks for the encouraging post :)

abby said...

I know the feeling. The tough part for me is that even though I can see the blessings, it is still hard for me to actually focus on them. You are so encouraging!

And if it makes you feel any better, I think there are a LOT of people who feel the same way about their house, I know we do!

Anonymous said...

Ugh I could have written this post. We too are stuck in a house we shouldn't have bought, stuck in a town we don't want to be in, stuck in a job (Chad) that isn't what we really sucks and I constantly feel like our life is on hold as we wait to see what will happen with our house (which is on the market for $20k less than we paid...). I try so hard to see the positives (and there are many!!) but some days it's so hard.

jennifer said...

Sometimes I feel the same exact way! But props to you for being able to see the positive side.

As a side note, are you using a different camera? Your photos have that 5DMII look to them (in which case I'll be incredibley jealous) :)

Miss said...

I am proud of you for being willing to sit back and see the positive in the hard.....that is in incredibly wise-and-yet-almost-impossible- sometimes thing to do.

I didn't know you thought your house was too small....I want to hear more about that. The size, why you shouldn't have bought it, etc.

fallgirly said...

I feel ya girl. We are in a teeny tiny house too. But it's the sacrifices of our 20's that will bring us good things in our 30's. I hope!! Keep your head up, this to shall pass!!

Bekah said...

I know the feeling well. Ive been and will continue to be praying for you guys.

Julie S. said...

You are a wise, wise woman. I'm so glad you are able to see the positive side of things.

Jen said...

Thank you for this. My DH and I stuck in many of the same ways. It's a good reminder to look at everything we are blessed with. And it gave me a smile because my two year olds favoride word is stuck.

Melissa said...

I often feel this same way, and I think many others do as well, but usually the positives aren't seen. It's good to read this and really think about what is going on in our lives and what we have to be thankful for.

yours truly, melissa said...

Life's so much better when you're able to count your blessings... I'm glad you're seeing the great things despite the hard times!

Hoping things look up (more so) soon.

Randine said...

We felt the same way about our house...and well, you see what we did about it. Obviously Im not suggesting that. But maybe try selling?

Love you Leah!

Sarah Louise said...

I have this "stuck/unstuck" argument with myself almost on a daily basis...and I think it is completely normal, and okay to feel this way.

I read something one time along the lines that you can't know joy, unless you know sadness. So I try to adapt that train of thought to whatever mood I am in- I wouldn't be able to celebrate success unless I knew what it felt like to fail; I can't appreciate my blessings unless I am familiar with affliction. I can't experience true love without ever feeling lonely. I would never be able to experience God's wonderful grace & forgiveness without admitting I was a sinner, etc.

...ff nothing else, know you aren't alone :)

Madeline said...

This rings so true with us! I wish Geoff was up here with me, but atleast he has a job.

What a great outlook! The tides are bound to turn

Bethany said...

Leah, I can identify on so many levels. For quite a long time, my husband and I felt stuck in many, many ways. I was working at a job I disliked with a boss who made every day a living nightmare. While my husband was sending off applications, hoping to get a job in his new career field. Meanwhile, he worked a dangerous job that neither of us were very comfortable with. We were full of dreams and hopes and wishes for things to change. But there we were, stuck. Unable to move until something changed. Things were tight financially and it all just felt very uncomfortable.

In hindsight, I can see how God used that time to draw us closer to himself and teach us lessons that we desperately needed to learn.

In HIS timing (definitely not OUR timing!), he opened a door for my husband to get a job doing what he absolutely loves. His new job enabled me to quit my job and go fulltime freelance. Everything shifted and changed, and suddenly we were "unstuck", and precisely in the place we'd be longing for for months.

I say all of that to hopefully offer a bit of encouragement. I know the way you feel, and also want to say that your story will slowly change and you won't feel stuck anymore.

You have a really lovely blog here, and I can see it will be addicting! Thanks for "inviting me over", and for reading b*spoke. It's great to have you as a neighbor. :)

Joi said...

It's all about perspective and I think you nailed it here.

Jen | Our Life Accounts said...

I can certainly empathize with your post. Over the last two years of our marriage (even throughout the dating and engagement) there was a constant yo-yoing back and forth. I think it's because we were and continue to be in such a transitional phase of our lives. It's the back and forth between waiting for what is looming on the horizon and struggling to survive in the now. I don't want to wish our lives away and I want to enjoy the present, but circumstances make that tough to stick to!


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