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Tuesday, May 18, 2010

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Thank you for your outpouring of support for my family. There is no such thing as too much prayer and I'm sure that my cousin is wrapped tight in it. The last few days have obviously been trying. It's stupid to say that this has had a larger impact on my cousin and her husband, understatement of the century, I don't want to make light of that fact when I speak to how it has touched Tony and myself. It feels questionable that I should write about how we're coping, when in fact we're somewhat removed from the tragedy. That being said, I only know what's going on in our minds . . .

Based on how Tony and I are dealing with this, my primary prayer has been that Kristi and Rob make it through this together. I don't remember, but have heard the stats for marriages in which a child dies and they were quite dismal. I can't imagine that adding a second child to that total increases the odds. Tony and I have really had our eyes opened in regards to our differences and there has been a complete lack of communication.

The visitation and funeral will occur on Thursday and Friday. I would ask that you continue to pray for my family during this time. We will not be bringing Isaac to either. Last year at Abbi's funeral Isaac was only a few months old and the age difference was large enough that I did not feel circumspect having him there. This time though, with only a few months difference between himself and Sarah it would seem wildly inappropriate to me to bring him. Not even necessarily for Kristi and Rob's benefit, as I'm sure they would be too wrapped up in their grief, but more so for other family members. I may be over thinking it, but I still think it's for the best.

To make matters worse for my Mom, my Stepdad was literally just about to walk out the door for a job in Ohio for the next year when we received the phone call. Seeing him off was the purpose of our visit. I have not always been the most gracious to my Mom, nor understanding, but being a mother has definitely softened my heart and filled some gaps. Last night, aware of the pain she is in and that she was alone, I invited her over for dinner. Even though she cares for Isaac daily, it is with the commotion of several other kids. It was quite the treat for her to cuddle Isaac while he slept on her chest, as I busily made dinner in the kitchen. After dinner Tony, Isaac, my Mom, Allie and I went for a walk. It was a good evening and the purpose was not lost on my Mom.

So again, thank you. Thank you. All we have is prayer right now and you are being so generous with it.

6 comments:

Husband & Wife. said...

Leah I'm so sorry about this horrible news, I just caught up with your blog. Please call me if you need to talk!

Kristal said...

I'll pray that their marriage stays strong as well. I hate to even say it, but I've thought before that I don't know if Chad and I's marriage would survive the death of a child. Not because of Chad, but because of myself - I think I would turn inward and shut him out completely. So I very much understand the need to pray for them to keep their marriage strong as much as the need to pray for peace for them right now.

The Wellingtons said...

I absolutely believe that prayer can truly get us through the most difficult and otherwise impossible situations. Ever since you shared their story, I felt led to pray for their marriage... that God would bind them together and be the strong cord that keeps them united despite the statistics against them. (A cord of three strands is not easily broken).. He is that third strand. I will of course be praying for all of you as you walk through this tragedy.. thank you for sharing so that so many of us can join with you all in prayer.

Faith said...

Just wanted to stop by and say thanks for your comment. Totally made my "laying around the house sick for the 6th day in a row" day. Sorry you and your family are going through some tough times. Hang in there and glad I could give you a laugh!

julie said...

I am so sorry to hear of your rough times. Know of my prayers for you and your family.

DianeTaylor said...

You are all in my prayers, Leah - my sister lost her son at age 22 and it profoundly changed my family. Nothing is ever the same. I treasure each and every moment God gives me with my husband and my family.
Love and prayers to you, and especially to your Mom during these difficult days.

 

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