Transition to Crib: Night 1

Monday, May 24, 2010

Well, here's where we're at last night was our first attempt . . . Isaac slept in our bed last night. Both Tony and I have been teeter-tottering on the issue and questioning whether we're really ready for this. We installed an alarm system, black out shades and the valences. The room looks one step closer to being done, you know almost a year after it should have been, hah!

On AJ's recommendation we did bottle, bath, book, bed. Except bed did not involve sleeping. Instead it was frantic and absolutely terrible, filled with Isaac's screams. I tried to sooth him one minute, then 5 minutes, then 10 minutes out but he was inconsolable. As I reached into the crib to rub his back and shush him, his arm wildly circled as he tried to make contact with my body. It was just too much to handle, so of course I picked him up and attempt to comfort him. No amount of rocking would ease his cries though, so I tried once again to lay him down. Tony and I stood in the bathroom and cried, with the fan and water both on. A few minutes later, Tony went in to comfort him but came out carrying Isaac, his decision made.

I know we have to be strong, but really we both are so comfortable with Isaac in bed with us it's hard to be resolute on something we're not sure we really want to do . . .

9 comments:

Mandie, Daniel and Dawson said...

I think you just answered the unasked question. Don't do it. You don't want to. You like having him in your bed and it's working for you. Dawson was in my bed til 16.5 months, and some nights he walks into my room and I pick him up and in he goes. I didn't get him ever transitioned to the crib, he hated it, I couldn't handle the crying til he threw up and then when I tried again at 16 months, he climbed out. I moved him into a full size mattress a couple of weeks ago and it's working great for us. I lay down with him and wait til he falls asleep, then I get up and go to my own bed. It has worked fabulously for us and it still gives me the time I so loved with him. Sometimes, like I said, I still get half a night. If I were in your shoes (and I was not even a month ago) I'd wait until you really are READY. I don't think you are yet. And clearly neither is Tony.

I'm Molly said...

Oh no! Your poor little fam! Trust your instincts, mama. If you don't feel ready then wait until you all are. No one says you have to transition him now. Hope you have a better night tonight!

Jeannie said...

Like everyone is saying...Trust your instincts. If you are not ready now, there will be a time that will be just right and the trasition will go smoothly.

Stay strong Leah and trust yourself!

julie said...

Trust that maternal instinct. When you are all ready, the transition should be much smoother. Praying for you!

Kristal said...

Oh mama. :( This made me cry.

I'm with everyone else - trust your instincts. If you and Tony are both happy with the arrangements right now, then just keep it that way for a bit. Like Julie said, when everyone is ready for a move, it will be so much easier for you.

Helen Joy said...

Awe! I would give anything if Barclay would still sleep with us. What a precious time that was. Just enjoy it. Ya'll are so cute it's ridiculous!

Meredith said...

I also agree to trust that Mamma Instinct. But, maybe there are also ways that you guys could continue to help that transition to the crib...

For example (maybe you already do this), but if Isaac falls asleep on you guys during the weekend, maybe lay him down in his crib (the trick is keeping him asleep in that transition!) so that it becomes a more familiar place for him. Sometimes, I'll even stick Lizzy in her crib to play while I'm putting away clothes or something in the room. My goal is just to make it a "normal" place for her, rather than someplace new and scary.

Rambling Renovators said...

There's no rush, mama. It'll happen but in the meantime, enjoy these nights with your family all together, falling asleep to the sound of each other's breath.

Jill said...

He'll be ready when he's ready. Don't feel pressured to rush it.

 

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