Wedded Wednesday

Wednesday, April 28, 2010


Wedded Wednesday is a collaboration
of married bloggers sharing their inspirations,

anecdotes, struggles and thoughts regarding
the amazing union of two separate people, as one.

Be Intentional.

My relationship with Tony is different now. I can't help but laugh at our arguments or frustrations in our relationship previously. Yes, some still exist, but we know their triviality. This past year, wow. We survived, with a little bit of flourishing even thrown in there!

The largest take away that I think we can both agree on after life with a newborn and now toddler: Be Intentional.

Think through your words before speaking. Identify your motives behind your actions. Choose daily, minute by minute, down to the second, to choose love. Lift up your spouse and your spouse will in turn have the strength to shoulder your load when it is too heavy for you! Commit yourself to your spouse, without reservation. Ban any thoughts on how to improve your life, but rather focus what can be done to better your spouse's.

To be honest, Tony and I have never ever had a date night. I think it's a wonderful concept and wish that we observed it, but it's never been practical. Our schedules conflict too much. I know, I hear you, that's the point of having a date night, so that at least on that one day you don't allow a conflict, but it's just never worked for us. The above though, that's how we connect in a way to stick it out through the rough times.

Yes, I will remember the two bouquets I received last year, but additionally I'll remember Tony's hand on the small of my back guiding me away from the sink as he took over. I'll remember the sweet nothings that I blew off as ridiculous as I fought off my baby weight. I'll treasure the moments he asked to hold his son, so that I could go for a run. I'll remember the first time Tony told me I was a good Mom, as I lay half collapsed over the bed sobbing. I'll remember those moments, because those times are now a part of the glue that holds us together. When Tony at least chose to intentionally love me, choose me and our family.

6 comments:

Mrs. Lukie said...

What a beautiful post, Leah. It made me tear up :) (And I think that is partly because this morning, as hubby was on his way out the door, I was NOT intentional in my words, thoughts or actions. Poor hubby).

Lauren said...

Beautiful post! This is my favorite...Choose daily, minute by minute, down to the second, to choose love. So true & so worthwhile!

L.C.T. said...

Again, very beautifully written :)

hopefuls #1 said...

So true.

So honest.

So breath taking.

What a great post! You are inspiration for those that fear failure and fear others thinking negatively toward them. We all have faults, and when we don't admit them, we are only hurting ourselves.

Thank you for this! You're amazing!

julie said...

Beautiful! I needed this today.

Sarah Louise said...

So true. I absolutely agree!

 

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