Wedded Wednesday

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Wedded Wednesday is a collaboration
of married bloggers sharing their inspirations,

anecdotes, struggles and thoughts regarding
the amazing union of two separate people, as one.

A few weeks back I was describing a frustrating situation involving Tony to a friend. It shocked me to no end when she declared that she would be compelled to act and thought my submission to Tony was very interesting.

Her statement shocked me because while I know I am called to be submissive to my husband, the God appointed head of our house, I've never felt like I ever actually was. I'm sure you can all recall the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding in which Maria tells Toula, "The man is the head, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head any way she wants." Growing up in a family with the strong influence of my Mom and being raised with complete confidence entrusted in my decisions, the past 3 1/2 years have encountered a few tug-of-war battles for superiority.

I never thought that someone acknowledging my apparent submission would actually make me feel satisfied and take encouragement. I was uplifted by this comment, because it means I am still growing. The better I am able to submit to Tony, the more room I allow for him to love me as he is called.

I do not need to be scared for my life to be dictated by Tony, as he has been called to love me as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13. He has been called to make decisions that are best for me and our family, without selfishness or pride. If I support my husband to be the man God has called him to be, our family will only be blessed, specifically our marriage.


abby said...

Well said. I know many women have a MAJOR problem with the idea of "submitting" to their husbands, but I think they get so stuck on the word "submit" and completely miss the big picture. God's desire for marriage is not that a husband dictate to his wife, but that he lovingly lead the family with his wife's support. I could go on and on with this subject because I find it to be such an interesting dynamic, but I'll spare you :)

It's always interesting and eye-opening to get someone else's perspective on your actions - glad you were encouraged!

Unknown said...

Thank you for sharing! I love that you are being submissive and this is something I strive for, myself.

Mrs. Lukie said...

I second Abby's comment.

You're spot on, Leah, when you say that you do not need to fear for your life to be dictated by Tony--he is merely following his calling by his Father. And so are you :)

Jen | Our Life Accounts said...

That's wonderful!

In the past I've had serious qualms with the whole submission thing with the "church" because growing up I saw way too many woman sit around, unable to make any sort of decision (what to eat, how to deal with kids, whether or not to work, how to spend money, what to cook etc etc) with the ok from their husband. I hated the idea of being a doormat.

Thankfully, since getting married, I have come around on the idea. :) It was dfinitely a matter of learning to gain an understanding of the true biblical definition of submission. It's not always easy (and I certainly flat out fail at it plenty of times) but when it works, it really really works!

Krista @ Craving Some Creativity said...

What a wonderful post, love your perspective on submission to husbands! It is one that I struggle with as I may be a bit of a control freak and allowing my husband to have some of the control is a learning curve for sure. We are only in year one though so we're still learning:) Thanks for the thoughts!


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