Wedded Wednesday

Wednesday, March 3, 2010


Wedded Wednesday is a collaboration
of married bloggers sharing their inspirations,

anecdotes, struggles and thoughts regarding
the amazing union of two separate people, as one.


Legacy

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The change that occurred when I became a mother was so dramatic and apparent, I hardly think it escaped anyone. Where once stood a vain, selfish and outspoken girl without a need for introspection has now been replaced by someone very different.

While I still want to attract the desire of my husband, short of that, don't expect too much extra effort in my appearance, but check out how cute! my baby is. I will be the first to say that I did not show compassion, my Mom actually used to describe me as stoic. Add to it my sharp tongue and need to make others laugh and you'd find me often saying things that I'd rather not remember.

I would dare say that the above [before] characteristics were shaped by the way I chose to survive my parents divorce. I was never keen on reflection or counseling because I didn't want to dissect many of the things that were out of my control . . . I never did stop to think about the ones that were.

And now that I'm a mother and parent, it doesn't seem like much can transpire without dwelling on every nuance. One thing that Tony and I have obviously discussed is what we want our legacy to be. What we hope to instill in our children, the family we hope to create and lately there have been a lot of negative mentions. I've been focusing too much on what I don't want my child[ren] to experience that I did.

That has got to stop, because as the above pictures show, there are many things that I experienced in my childhood that should be replicated! My parents divorced. My brother and I were affected. But that does not mean that they do not each have a legacy worth remembering.

Whether we choose to admit it or not, we are a product of our upbringing. I want to enlist the good of that.

What do you want your legacy to be?

5 comments:

Stephanie said...

I think you've come to a wise revelation. Love your posts!

Patience said...

What a great revelation. I too have been affected by my parents divorce and I am not one to talk about my feelings, but it is something I am working on. Love your posts!

Mrs. Lukie said...

You just described the old me--stoic & looking back, one to say things (often) that make me cringe now. Meeting my husband changed that for me.

What a wonderful post, Leah :)

Meredith said...

The legacy question is such a good one--I think the thing that tops my list is that I want my kids to know (and show) God's love.

Helen Joy said...

Good point. I so often focus on what I don't want to be from my family...but there are so many good things I do want to be.

 

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