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Friday, February 12, 2010

I'm not really a good friend. It's something that I'm well aware of and I could accept from my friends if they were ever forced to say it. I'm too forward sometimes. It makes people uncomfortable, but not consistently so, because sometimes I shut down too. So I guess I'm loud sporadically and have a big personality when I want to.

I'm also not very good at the little things. The upkeep of a friendship. We're either thick as thieves or mute like enemies. I forget birthday cards and anniversaries, always meaning to send the charming little message that would make someones day. Sometimes it isn't the thought that counts.

I'd especially be the first to admit that I'm not the greatest at showing appreciation. By golly if we're in person, you'd get an enthusiastic thank you . . . but I don't have the best record with thank you cards. They are always, always severely delayed.

I say all this because these poor traits have weighed on my heart lately. Being aware hasn't changed me, but I want to make a concerted effort for the betterment of those in my life.

One of the first opportunities to present itself was to bless the family of my friend's, albeit indirectly. Rachel and Melissa are two sisters who truly emulate Christ's image, not by living perfect lives, but by loving wholly as He has called us. Their love is loud, their laughs are loud, their families are loud and you can't help but be smitten. They have encouraged me through their strength, but more often through their struggles.

So when Melissa posted this, I knew immediately that I would respond. It's been one thing that our tithing contribution has gone up {not hard to do when you're not tithing regularly}, our charity contributions are actually happening {as opposed to Oh, that's a good cause}, but what I really wanted was to show kindness in action. So I prepared a meal {that never made it to their house, because it didn't finish in time}, purchased another and drove almost 2 hours round trip to bring a family that I don't know a meal. I'm not sure if it had as much as an impact on them, as it did on me.

And you know what, I received a thank you card. :)

9 comments:

Kristy said...

I am bad with this as well. Especially when it comes to phone calls: I forget to call family and friends on their birthdays, and I hate to talk on the phone for extended periods of time, so i just dont call. I tend to lose touch with far-away friends. One of my goals for 2010 is to write more letters!

abby said...

First, I completely disagree that you are not a good friend! You must have really GREAT friends if they do all the things that you mention, thus giving you such high standards to hold yourself to.

I'm sure that family greatly appreciated the meal you brought them, I think it's such a great way to lift up and encourage others. I'm always so touched when people offer to bring us meals, but then again food speaks to me like nothing else can :)

Meredith said...

I'm really bad with the little phone calls and doing thoughtful things for no reason too.

And we really need to get back to tithing regularly...

Lauren said...

I think being a great friend truly is hardwork & some people have an honest gift for being a great friend. I on the other hand fall into the category with you and many times I fail miserably!

Raquel said...

Maybe your strength in friendships is that loud, honest, communication. People know that they can count on you for harsh truths ! Consider it !? Every one shoud have this one friend...

AJ said...

Whatchu talkin' 'bout, Willis? You're a great friend! Yeah, you talk a lot. ;) BUT...there's always conversation. How kind of you to make Erin's family a meal. You, my dear friend, are awesome.

Garrett and Meagan said...

That is so sweet of you. What a blessing to them!

I totally know what you mean, I'm the same way. The past year or so I have been trying to get better at showing my love and appreciation to my friends and family. Writing cards, etc. It definitely doesn't come naturally to me!

Rachel said...

First off, wow, I don't think I deserve to be spoken of so highly! second, I am proud of you for being so honest... I have been that exact same person in my life... and being aware is a huge first step to changing.

Thirdly, I think it is amazing you did this! Bringing meals to someone never felt fun for me, it always felt like something I "should" do.... until I really started to develop a love for service... and what an amazing difference it makes!

I am proud of you friend!

Miss said...

I know you knocked my socks off when you said you wanted to bring them a meal!! you amazed me =)

 

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