Wedded Wednesday

Wednesday, September 30, 2009




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Family Tradition

Anyone else now thinking about the Fiddler on the Roof?

Growing up in a divorced home, I feel as though I have very few family traditions that I want to carry on. New traditions are ideal, but I feel like they are something that can not be forced.

Tony and I were just discussing two traditions that my Mom and Dad were very consistent with and that I remember even though I would have only been 6 years or younger.

The first is the family hug. It may seem mundane, but I clearly remember my Dad gathering us together, my brother and I smooshed in between him and my Mom, yelling "Family HUG!" Tony and I have started this already with Isaac. Although I'm sure it will get more difficult as he grows older, he's a willing participant in being smothered in kisses right now. :)

I can't remember what I said, but Tony's response definitely made me tear up. I believe I was speculating on how long the family hug would be sustained and Tony said, "Who knows, maybe he'll be heading out to college and being the one yelling 'Family HUG!' as he gathers the family together." Something about that mental image just kills me. I hope that I raise a son who does just that.

The 2nd tradition is the "I Love You" hand squeeze. This one was continued by my brother and long past our parents stopping with us. It's simply squeezing someone's hand 3 times to symbolize saying I love you. Perfect when crossing the street, trying not to cry or simply when holding hands to say grace before a meal.

I tried it out with Tony the other night, explaining it to him {I'm sure we're not the only ones who do this!}. I was caught off guard a few minutes later when he questioned why I squeezed his hand 4 times, instead of 3. Not missing a beat, Tony told me 4 squeezes means "I love you, sexy." LOL!

Do you have family traditions that are unique that you hope to pass onto to your family?

11 comments:

Leah said...

I like the 4-time hand squeeze. Too cute!

Samantha said...

John and I do the I love you hand squeeze too! I actually did it for awhile before we said it out loud and apparently he caught on because he did it back and told me that he loved me out loud after awhile :)

CJ said...

Growing up the family hug was a tradition whenever someone was in a noticeably bad mood and obviously did not want to be bothered by anyone. It almost always brought us all into fits of laughter. Now J yells "family hug" and attacks me whenever I am looking sour.

I love the hand squeeze. I never heard of that one!

Kristal said...

Most of our family traditions revolve around the holidays - setting aside a day to bake lots of goodies, decorating together for Christmas the day after Thanksgiving, etc. But I love the family hug idea!!

Mrs.LifeAccounts said...

I have a lot of family traditions from my family growing up...I think a lot of them have naturally flowed into our marriage simply because we are around on them on a near day-to-day basis. Like Kristal said we have A LOT of traditions for holidays, eating dinner together as a family is also pretty important to us, growing up I always did this and the husband not so much and it's definitely something we stick to as much as our schedules allow. There are a lot of silly "habits" we have started but I guess I'm not sure which ones will stick and become actual traditions! Yours are adorable!

julie said...

My mom, sister, and I go to the apple orchard every fall. We are taking Brayden on Friday, I can't wait! We also do candlelight service on Christmas Eve and I look forward to taking Brayden when he is old enough to go at 11pm that night! I am sure there are more, I just can't think of them!

Meredith said...

My family's traditions growing up were mostly centered around various holidays as well--like always going out to the same restaurant for Christmas Eve. Or that my parents hide a pickle ornament on the tree, and the person to find it gets an extra present.

Other than that, it was pretty much mandatory that we attended all of each other's sporting events when they were in town, unless we had an exceptional excuse not to. J and I still drive the hour to watch my younger brother play in almost every football game...I want that tradition to continue with our kids as well.

Mrs. Lukie said...

We do the hand squeeze ;)

I don't have many family traditions from childhood...nor does Mr. Lukie.

But slowly, we've started developing our own little traditions that will hopefully carry on through the years.

Johanna said...

Love the family hug!

Sarah said...

We also do the hand squeeze 3 times for I love you. It's nice to be able to "say" it without saying words sometimes.

bekah said...

similar to your hand squeeze..we beep three time when we leave a family members house to say "I love you" one last time.

 

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