Wedded Wednesday

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Wedded Wednesday is a collaboration
of married bloggers sharing their inspirations,
anecdotes, struggles and thoughts regarding
the amazing union of two separate people, as one.

Marriage is a Profound Mystery

Do you ever have those moments in your marriage where you look at your spouse and wonder how you ever managed to stumble across a life so good? Usually these fleeting seconds are days or weeks away from the times when unfortunately you look at your spouse and wonder how you could ever be with someone so {fill in the blank}.

Tony and I have both found ourselves in positions of support to married friends recently, in various degrees. For some it's been simple encouragement, for thankfully a small few, it's been more desperate as they've chosen to end the relationship or been on the receiving end of that decision.

We've never felt like we have a "secret" to our marriage, heck 3 years isn't much of track record, but we've both had a sense of security in our relationship. One that we know must be kept up so that the tension is never slack nor too tight, just taunt. We are not immune to taking each other for granted, but I think we are very aware of when it is happening and fight like heck to make sure that we either change our course or speak up so that the other notices as well.

I'm interested in what the future holds for Tony and I as we raise our family, intact. It's something that I've only viewed from the outside and I look forward to understanding intimately. It's a promise that I make to Isaac daily.

These are four separate thoughts that only seem to align in my head, but have weighed on me heavily lately. I think what I'm trying to say is that my husband is my greatest blessing, but most vexing annoyance. We've been called to support our friend's marriages, but I'm not sure why as I think we have a normal relationship. Keeping each other constantly in check seems to be a strength. I don't know what a healthy relationship between Tony and our children will look like, but I'm excited to find out.

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
Ephesians 5: 31-32


Mrs. Lukie said...

LOVE the scripture you posted at the end of your blog. One of my all time favorite verses :)

Meredith said...

I like that verse too.

I think for me, sometimes it's hard for me to support friends through tough times in their marriages, because our perspectives of marriage differ so much--for us, there is really only one or maybe two situations in which divorce would even be considered an option. Because it isn't an option, the hard times are easier to work through.

For some of my friends, it IS an option, and so it's harder to encourage them to work through it...

Ginger said...

I too love that verse..

I love that strong bond you and Tony share knowing you made the commitment for the long run. It's so refreshing and ufortunately rare. I made the mistake of talking with a co-worker about something Mr. A and I were going through and my mouth dropped wide open when she said "well you could always just leave him and start over" UMM No I respect my vows and I don't want to leave my husband I love him with all my heart does he drive me crazy heck yeah but I would be lost without him. And that was the last time I'll ever discuss my marriage with anyone who isn't a close friend.

Bree said...

Great post. I am sorry some friends need your support in their tough times, but I am sure they are glad to have you. One of our mutual friends told us recently that we were the "sweetheart" couple of our friend group. I laughed and asked why? He said we are the only ones that seem to enjoy each others company and are effortless to be around as a couple. It was a great compliment, but there are moments I wonder if we deserve that label. I remind myself each day how lucky I am and try to do the same in those moments where we are being tested. That and some friends talk openly about divorce being an option. For us, its not even in our universe, let alone a fleeting thought.

Jen | Our Life Accounts said...

I love this! Particularly the whole "greatest blessing but most vexing annoyance" I feel like I wrote that. :) I think so much security in a relationship comes from not having the option or back-up plan of divorce. So nice to have you back visiting my blog!

Julie S. said...

I love that you have the deep love and respect for your wedding vows, because as PP said, it is unbelievably rare in this society. I would never, ever consider divorce, and consider myself truly blessed to have that strong value in my life.


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