Wedded Wednesday

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Wedded Wednesday is a collaboration
of married bloggers sharing their inspirations,
anecdotes, struggles and thoughts regarding
the amazing union of two separate people, as one.

Remember, it's not important to always be right.

The need to win every argument is a good indicator of a prideful nature. In contrast, a willingness to admit error points to a humble spirit. It's no secret as to which the Bible advocates. Provers 11:2 says, "Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom."

Pride exacerbates dissent just as surely as do harsh, angry words, while humility promotes peaceful resolution. So the trick to reducing the amount and intensity of conflict in a marriage is, quite simply, to replace pride with humility.

We must examine the condition of our heart. If we discover that our attitude is one of stubbornness and pride, we should ask ourselves why. What is the root of our conceit? If we are honest with ourselves, we will often find that our pridefullness is a defense mechanism, a mask for feelings of uncertainty and inferiority. It's a substitute for having the courage to say, "I don't know" and risk losing the esteem of others. Pride is a stick we lean on to prop ourselves up; that's why it often goes before the fall.

Don't be afraid to admit that you don't have all the answers, and don't hesitate to confess when you're wrong. You don't need to a flimsy crutch like pride to stand tall - God promises to lift up those who humble themselves.

Pride leads to arguments; those who take advice are wise.
Proverbs 13:10

From the book Married for Life.


Jen | Our Life Accounts said...

boy is this something that I will ALWAYs need to work on, growing up in a large family there was plenty of arguements and I learned how to debate with the best of them, my poor husband can get an unexpected double barrel full sometimes...I've never thought of it as pride so much as the "pecking order" but I'm sure if I went back and examined it, I'd find it had a bit more to do with my pride then I care to admit. *sheepish grin* it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks!

Meredith said...

Ditto. We're both stubborn as all get out, but this was the first time that I've thought of stubbornness being driectly related to pride!

Julie S. said...

I agree with Meredith. I have never thought as stubbornness being related to pride. Brandon and I are both stubborn as mules! I will ALWAYS need to work on this.

Meagan said...

ME TOO! I totally need to work on this. This morning I had to apologize to Garrett because I had a SERIOUS attitude. No sleep=grumpy wife!


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