How RUDE!

Friday, July 17, 2009

We're about 5 months removed from our fabulous Florida vacation. I think that 5-6 months is prime time for vacation reflection and wistfullness . . . although I have to remind myself that I was pregnant during this time! Isn't that odd?

Anywhoo, the above image is probably my most favorite of the two of us on this trip. It was mid-vacation, at a scrumptious restaurant, with some of our closest friends, while pregnant with our little man. Life was good and I think we reflect that!

In fact, I know that we reflected this feel good emotion, as many people came up to Tony {more often than me} to congratulate us. Tony positively beamed from the well wishers comments. I think he received them as the equivalent of "You done good!" :)

Imagine his surprise when an elderly gentleman approached our table, placed his hand on Tony's shoulder, leaned into his ear and . . . reprimanded him for wearing a hat at dinner!

Mind you, there was a family of tourists sitting adjacent to us, wearing shorts and flip-flops sporting baseball caps as well! I'm not saying Tony was exactly in the right, but as far as social norms at this restaurant he was not out of place.

He was so embarrassed, especially since he is such a stand up guy and had grown accustomed to the occasional good word!

Have you ever been socially admonished? What was your reaction?

14 comments:

Dee said...

Oh yeah. Not by comment, but look.

I was 38wks pregnant and had gotten the go ahead to treat myself to a glass of red wine if I so desired! I went to a small restaurant and ordered just that. The waitress goes, "Excuse me?" and I politely ordered again in case she didnt hear me!

Granted, I probably asked for it. Since I chose to do it in public. But it is my choice nonetheless!

Heidi said...

Wow. Poor Tony! I would have turned bright red and it would have probably ruined my dinner. Oy. Nothing is coming to my mind about being admonished in public, but the comment above made me think of a time when Clay was about 4 months and I was trying out a sling for the first time. MIL thought they were ridic and hippy things, and when Clay started to cry in it at a church luncheon, she just got up, walked across the room, and took him out of the sling that was on my body! She said something about couldn't I see he was too hot... I was so shocked that I think I just could process fast enough to move to keep him and I was left sitting baby-less and completely embarrased. Everyone saw and as a new mommy, I just about died.

Jennifer said...

That man was totally out of place saying that to Tony. I can't think of any at the moment but I'm sure I will....lol.

Helen Joy said...

A lady came up to me the other day when I was walking outside of a store and said,
"You are ruining your baby's eyes by not putting sun glasses on him. Don't you know that babies don't know any better but to stare at the sun."
I was speechless

And when I was OVERdue, a lady at the coffee shop I was sitting at, she was about 60, leaned over and said,
"Excuse me, but I'm afraid I am going to have to leave before you have your baby."

Ummm ok? That makes no sense.

Sarah said...

That is a really great pic of the two of you! I can't believe that someone would have the nerve to say that. It goes into the category of "what are people thinking?". You are right--very rude!

CageQueen said...

I feel it is inapropriate for anyone to admonish someone else, let alone a stranger. Doing so means they are judging you and what you're doing, which is not their job! Last I checked, we have but on Judge. Judge not lest ye be judged!

And Heidi should tell her MIL she is lucky she doesn't have me for a dughter-in-law because I would've given her an earful. Obviously, Heidi has more social grace than I, LOL.

Julia said...

That is awful. Helen Joy's comments made me laugh out loud they were so horrid.

People never fail to amuse me!

C said...

Gorgeous pic. of you guys! That guy was wayy of base saying that to Tony! I can't really think of anything of the top of my head, but I'm sure it's happened!

Jen said...

My DH made my grandmother very uncomfortable once for wearing a hat to dinner once too. Instead of saying something to him, she just told my dad, who gently said something to DH. It must be one of those older etiquette rules.

Andrea said...

Yes...a few years ago at church actually. This old lady kept looking at me and at the end of service asked to talk to me. She basically told my mom to get lost since she was standing right next to me. This old lady went on and on about how we as Christian girls should do our best not to tempt men with our clothing. She made me feel HORRIBLE. I was wearing khaki capri's and a sleeveless pink top (not a tank top..just sleeveless). After I walked out of church I just started bawling...especially since that was NOT my intention at all and quite frankly, the outfit was pretty modest. My mom would never BS me and she informed me my outfit was fine. So did my grandma who I saw a few hours later.

Looking back I wish I would have stood up for myself. At the time I was in really good shape and I just wish I would have said "Just because I look good in my outfit, doesn't mean it's scandelous!"

ezza said...

you have to smile at some "older" people! poor tony!

Chic Maps by Nikki said...

I'm so sorry that happened! People sure have a way of ruining a perfectly good day. Amazingly people don't think about what they say and that it may affect you months, years down the road. I only wish nice things people said resonated as long...

My story: Back in high-school my church youth group used to do car washes to raise money for mission trips and at the time my station was holding up a sign on a busy intersection, yes I know ... I was standing on a corner, but nonetheless... I was wearing shorts and a tank top (HELLO I live in Florida and it was summer, so it was around 100 degrees) but it was a wide strapped loose tank top. While I was standing there with my car wash sign this big van pulled up and handed me something, mind you people were giving us donations so I assumed that's what it was until I opened it. It was a home printed pamphlet titled 'Keep Your Clothes On.' It was a religious booklet about inappropriately dressed women. I was so embarrassed I cried in front of the people I was with and to make matters worse I was the only girl that was far from the size 2 girls that surrounded me. It was over 10 years ago and it still haunts me...

Oh did I mention how cute you two were in your vacay photo?? Where in Florida were you? I was born in raised on good 'ol Orlando :)

Meredith said...

My grandmother once called me out in the middle of a HUGE family dinner for taking a scoop of jello from the middle of the bowl rather than the outside. I have no idea why this was a no-no, but it was. She wouldn't let me eat jello salad at her house for MONTHS until she said that she was "confident I wouldn't do it again". I didn't do it intentionally then, but you better believe I do it intentionally now, every time.

Q, La, and Gooner said...

What I have noticed about people...they have no filter. ZERO filter. I'm sorry.

 

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