I'm that pregnant girl.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Last night, after Biggest Loser and my date with the treadmill, I hopped on D&R and found myself in a discussion with SJH regarding starting my new job on Monday. I'm not sure if it has or hasn't been noticed that I have yet to post about the transition, but well, I haven't because frankly I haven't given it much thought.

While I can be a bit of a worrier, you will not find me stressed out about meeting new people. I know that not everyone will like me, but it's not worth my time to worry about whether or not people will. From what I've gathered in life so far, if I go in, do my thing, present myself as I am, and pick up things relatively fast, it'll go fine and I'll befriend enough people to make my time enjoyable.

Additionally, while I was both under and overqualified for this position, I can do this new job. Sure there will be a learning curve and I'm sure a fair amount of frustration, but from the sounds of it, I should enjoy the challenges.

What is finally hitting me about starting this new position is that I'll never actually be who I think of as Leah to my new co-workers. I will first and foremost be pregnant Leah, followed by maternity leave Leah, and then finally new Mom Leah. When I first started with Target Corp, it was much the same. I was in a class of my peers, but I was one of only 4 who were married and I was defined by it.

No one will know that I was captain of my college soccer team, because no one will think to ask what my hobbies are or what I do in my free time, instead I'll face focused questions on the pregnancy. That saddens me, because this pregnancy does not define me, and yet it will, without my permission.

22 comments:

Ashley said...

I totally get it. One night this really hit me hard...like I'm totally redefining myself. It's a GREAT thing, but it's just a new mindset. I'm going through it with you!

Dunc said...

I definitely get what you're saying about just going into work and letting it all fall into place. That must be why I'm not so worried this time around, either.

C said...

Never thought about it before, but that's true. I never get asked about myself, I get asked, "How's married life?".

hopeful #1 said...

Keep your head up.

Stay positive.

You'll be great, no matter how they look at you.

:)

*claire* said...

just keep on being you - that's all that matters!

by the way - i really like the new blog look!

abby said...

The people who are worth getting to know better will ask you questions about YOU and not just about you-as-mother.

This is something that's been on my mind - I don't want to be an all-consumed parent who is incapable of keeping any semblance of a life of my own or holding a conversation about anything other than my child.

I think you'll find a way to let people know who the real you is!

Megan said...

Um, yes - I hear ya. It is completely frustrating and honestly I'm not sure I'm ready to join the "mom club" either.

Erin said...

I feel like most of the people you'll be working with will be pretty young and not have a CLUE what to ask about regarding pregnancy - so you might be okay! Some people of course will focus on that, but not all of them hopefully!

Also, in response to C's comment above... that is my LEAST favorite question of all time. Luckily it has finally stopped now, but for the year after we got married I used to dread talking to acquaintances because I knew that would be their first question!

PS I responded to your comment on my blog :)

Dr. Erin and Mr. Heath said...

I know exactly what you mean. As I've moved through life from college to med school and now residency I realize that these new people that I meet will never know the Erin that I know. It's strange, but I guess that's part of life. Kind of exciting, depending on how you look at it.
Good luck at the new job!

Blue-Eyed Bride said...

i can completley relate to what you're saying.

(i also just noticed that three Erins in a row have posted-- including me)

thank you for your support yesterday!

Jeannie said...

Whoa! I like the new layout!

I can also related to what you're saying and feeling...

Meredith said...

Love the new blog look!

It's absolutely going to be tough to transition, and most of your questions probably WILL be regarding your pregnancy at first.

My only advice is to throw in comments about your non-pregnant self every so often ("Man, I can't wait til I'm able to play soccer again!"), and they'll catch on soon enough!

Best of luck on Monday--I know you'll do beautifully!

julie said...

Hang in there. This transition won't be as bad as it seems...it can't be, with a little one around. Good luck!

ezza said...

i agree with Meredith. you will be great!
love the new look!

Chelsie said...

First, love the new look.

Second, I hate labels and totally understand what you mean even though I am not pregnant. Starting over can be nice but then no one really knows who you are so they label you by what they see. Be your honest self and they will know the true you before you know it.

Metamorphosis of Me said...

That is a difficult thing to grapple with. It seems like after a having a child you take on a whole new person. I am quite sure that people will love you all the same though.

P.S. Thanks for taking an interest in my blog and leaving sweet comments!

The Branches said...

I HATE starting new jobs and it takes awhile to get your bearings and learn everything....but you will get there. That is part of the process and everyone there was new once too, so they can't judge! I'm sure they will embrace you and ask you baby questions all the time :) I hope this is a great opportunity for you and let us know how it goes. I'm praying for you and I know it will be great :)

Sarah said...

Wow, I inspired a blog post! :) Like I told you the other night, sometimes you just take the words out of my head and put them in (much more eloquently) in your blog. I'll be praying for you and T throughout your transition.

Kaitlyn said...

Transitions can be strange, but i9t seems to me that you're handling things well. No matter your role, I think they will love you!

Love the new blog look, mind telling me how to do something like this? My blog is hideous!

Bluebird said...

Wow. I would have never thought of that. I hope the transition goes well for you and although it will take time I'm sure people will get to know YOU. Not everyone is great at starting conversations with the "new girl" so the pregnancy thing might actually be a good thing because most people think baby stuff is easier to talk about (even if they aren't good at it).

Maybe the baby can be "used" as segway in your conversations...for example, if for some reason someone feels compelled to ask you if you like being pregnant (because people like to ask weird personal questions like that sometimes) you can say yes/no, but/because I miss playing soccer, etc.

I hope things go well for you and people realize that you are so much more than a soon-to-be mom, and I'm sure they will. Good luck, and by the way, I like the new layout!

Rachel said...

I haven't met anyone here in Chicago without being pregnant or a mom. It's strange! I totally get you!

I started a new job after I was married 5 months and I was Rachel. Then another Rachel started and she became Rachel H. Which was VERY odd to me cuz my whole life I was rachel H. up until I got married! I felt she stole my identity! Lol.

Sarah Danielle: Jeune Marie said...

Ditto but with being married. I guess your the preggo gal and I'm the married gal, LOL. Glad you have a strong personality and a good outlook about it.

 

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