Friday, December 26, 2008

Despite what I wrote regarding Christmas traditions and how our days are filled with multiple families, this year was surprisingly laid back, almost even relaxing due to forgoing Christmas Eve night at Mom’s and all together not visiting with Tony’s family.

We started with celebrating my Mom’s birthday with a Christmas Eve brunch, before leisurely making our way over to my Dad’s around 5:00ish to celebrate Christmas with the family before one of Shirley’s sister’s made their way over with all of my cousins. I was looking forward to my little 2nd (step) cousin’s arrival. Little Rocco and I had never met before . . . and I was armed with my camera, determined to show my worth as a photographer. I’m very excited to report that I think I succeeded, but there will have to be more on that later.

Yesterday we then went to my Grandma’s and were delighted to hear that my cousin and his wife are expecting again. Sheena had suffered a miscarriage earlier in the spring, but is now due in August ’09! Following my Grandma’s we made a pit stop to visit with all of my step-Mom’s family, before making it back to my Mom’s for the evening.

Tony and I, in agreement with our parents decided to skip presents this year, although, when it really came down to it, Tony and I were the only ones who abided. If you remember, my Mom blessed us with our Christmas present early . . . seconds after we finished running our ½ marathon, a shiny 2nd hand oven! :) She’s a beaut. The blessings from my Mom did not end there. This year she has been a huge source of support to Tony and I. I’ve failed to mention that we haven’t really been scraping by on one vehicle. Don’t get me wrong, 80% of the time we’re using one vehicle, because our schedules allow it or we force a bit of flexibility {like my visiting with my in-laws for a few hours while Tony refs a hockey game}, but on those days when we just can’t make it work? We’ve been blessed by the availability of my step-Dad’s vehicle since he is out of state for prolonged periods of time. Now it may not seem like that much of a sacrifice for my parents to allow us the use of a vehicle that was just sitting in their driveway, but considering that they fixed it so that it was operable for our use would definitely qualify. And . . . it wasn’t cheap, but my Mom saw the need and without our asking she and my step-Dad decided to go ahead with the repairs.

My Dad and brother also failed to heed our agreement. I was the recipient of a fabulous gift card to a local mall from my Dad and a sturdy camera bag from my brother {based on Tony’s great suggestion}. These gifts are so very timely as I honestly couldn’t find anything to wear on Christmas Eve. I think a pair of maternity pants is in my near future. Additionally the camera bag works quite a lot better than my purse! :)

We have also been blessed by my opportunity and ability to waitress. Kaitlyn had written in response to my post about serving that God would be faithful even if it’s not the way we think we want. I immediately had a negative reaction to that response. And really, I should have nipped my attitude in the bud a long time ago, but I’ve been a bit of bad news bears lately. I don’t want it to be God’s plan for us to get through this by my serving, which is a very different outlook than I thought I had. I thought I was praying for God’s will, but instead, I have very established expectations on how He’s supposed to go about this.

So, as my title reflects, I think I finally figured out that while our situation sucks, we’re still blessed beyond words. A reality check that you would think one with the blog title marital bless would have figured out by now.


Freckles Chick said...

What matters is that you made some peace and are doing the best you can with the situation you've been dealt. Who are we to judge how you got to this realization? =)

And girl, you haven't met negativity until you've met me. Mr. FC can attest to that. HA!
Happy Holidays =)

Meredith said...

Oh Leah, sounds like you're having some serious revelations here. And I know how it feels.

I too, tend to sometimes have negative reactions when people tell me that God's plan for me isn't necessarily the same as my plan for me. But it's true, isn't it?

Kaitlyn said...

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry if I offended you in any way! I have an unfortunate tendency to be a bit too concise and blunt and I wind up hurting people. I'm so sorry for that.

I like the line "... while our situation sucks, we're still blessed beyond words". Very powerful, and a wonderful reminder to us all.

Don't you just love getting gifts that are a true surprise? So much fun!

Chels said...

I too often get upset when I feel like God's plans aren't matched up to the plans I have for myself. It is so much easier to ask "why God, why me?" then to answer "Yes, God." Do you ever notice that it takes a lot more energy to be upset and worried about what's going on instead of rolling with the punches and embracing the situation God has placed you in?

I know I constantly say God has a plan for all of us. At times like these, it becomes very hard to trust in His plans. However, at the same time, it's times like these when we need to trust in God's plans the most.

I am so glad you posted this because I have been in a constant struggle with God's plan for me. This was something I really needed to read.

abby said...

I definitely know it can be hard to sit back and actually realize that yes, you are in fact blessed even though everything might not be going how YOU would like. It's easy to overlook the good in our life when we're focusing on the troubled spots - believe me, I've been (am) there too!

Glad to hear you had a laid-back Christmas and sounds like you got some fun gifts!

Ginger said...

you are so strong!

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